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Online counseling (in person in Royan, France), not licensed, for anxiety, depression, childhood trauma, addiction, moods and behaviors sometimes diagnosed as OCD, AVPD, ADHD, BPD, schizophrenia, etc.

Frustrated with some aspects of your life? Not as happy as you want?

I'll help you recover your happiness. Try me, it's free!


As Carl Rogers [1] [2] [3] said:
I can testify that when you are in psychological distress and someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good!

When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, how confusions that seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams.


This is my experience too, and it's what I strive to provide to you. Using unconditional positive regard, and empathy, that I've been learning from Rogers as well as from his student Marshall Rosenberg [4] [5], and therapy models and methods by Pia Mellody [6] [7] and Peter Levine [8] [9].

I hope this caring and respectful disposition comes through in this short video:





There's more videos on my YouTube channel, where for example I share the best information I've found on the real causes of anxiety and depression, and how to get relief for these. You can also hear all about my journey of discovering and healing my own childhood trauma, to know where my understanding of these issues comes from.


Payment options

I only ask for payment if you are satisfied with the results you get.

It's similar to how I've been offering the software on this site since 1996: you are free to download and use the software, and pay only after you are comfortable that you do benefit enough from it.

Also, you only pay what you are satisfied is fair. And however much of that you can afford. I'm confident this is an arrangement that works well in the end.

When I was struggling with overwhelming anxiety, I was scared of spending money on therapy that might turn out ineffective. Having gone through this experience is another reason why I offer my services without asking you to commit to paying.


Session options

You can book sessions for a set time, days in advance, or check if I'm available in 10 minutes. Session length is whatever you need, that I can accommodate in the moment. We can convene for just a few minutes if you want, or an hour, or two. As long as it works for both of us. And you can stop whenever you want.

You can email me at the address below to get started. We can then use Skype or Google Hangouts or Zoom or meet.jit.si (which doesn't require sharing contact information) to have audio or video conversations. Or text chat, if you prefer.

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Carl Rogers on loneliness

“When I take the gamble, the risk, of trying to share something that is very personal with another individual and it is not received and not understood, this is a very deflating and a very lonely experience. I have come to believe that such an experience makes some individuals psychotic. It causes them to give up hoping that anyone can understand them. Once they have lost that hope, then their own inner world, which becomes more and more bizarre, is the only place where they can live. They can no longer live in any shared human experience.

I can sympathize with them because I know that when I try to share some feeling aspect of myself which is private, precious, and tentative, and when this communication is met by evaluation, by reassurance, by distortion of my meaning, my very strong reaction is, “Oh, what’s the use!” At such a time, one knows what it is to be alone.

So, as you can readily see from what I have said thus far, a creative, active, sensitive, accurate, empathic, nonjudgmental listening is for me terribly important in a relationship. It is important for me to provide it; it has been extremely important, especially at certain times in my life, to receive it. I feel that I have grown within myself when I have provided it; I am very sure that I have grown and been released and enhanced when I have received this kind of listening” --Carl Rogers, A Way of Being.

Carl Rogers on what makes for effective therapy

“The first element could be called genuineness, realness, or congruence. The more the therapist is himself or herself in the relationship, putting up no professional front or personal facade, the greater is the likelihood that the client will change and grow in a constructive manner. This means that the therapist is openly being the feelings and attitudes that are flowing within at the moment. The term “transparent” catches the flavor of this condition: the therapist makes himself or herself transparent to the client; the client can see right through what the therapist is in the relationship; the client experiences no holding back on the part of the therapist. As for the therapist, what he or she is experiencing is available to awareness, can be lived in the relationship, and can be communicated, if appropriate. Thus, there is a close matching, or congruence, between what is being experienced at the gut level, what is present in awareness, and what is expressed to the client.

The second attitude of importance in creating a climate for change is acceptance, or caring, or prizing—what I have called “unconditional positive regard.” When the therapist is experiencing a positive, acceptant attitude toward whatever the client is at that moment, therapeutic movement or change is more likely to occur. The therapist is willing for the client to be whatever immediate feeling is going on—confusion, resentment, fear, anger, courage, love, or pride. Such caring on the part of the therapist is nonpossessive. The therapist prizes the client in a total rather than a conditional way.

The third facilitative aspect of the relationship is empathic understanding. This means that the therapist senses accurately the feelings and personal meanings that the client is experiencing and communicates this understanding to the client. When functioning best, the therapist is so much inside the private world of the other that he or she can clarify not only the meanings of which the client is aware but even those just below the level of awareness. This kind of sensitive, active listening is exceedingly rare in our lives. We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.

How does this climate which I have just described bring about change? Briefly, as persons are accepted and prized, they tend to develop a more caring attitude toward themselves. As persons are empathically heard, it becomes possible for them to listen more accurately to the flow of inner experiencings. But as a person understands and prizes self, the self becomes more congruent with the experiencings. The person thus becomes more real, more genuine. These tendencies, the reciprocal of the therapist’s attitudes, enable the person to be a more effective growth-enhancer for himself or herself. There is a greater freedom to be the true, whole person.” --Carl Rogers, A Way of Being.